when i started like really trying to work on myself
i started just like dropping a bunch of people and homies and shit 'cause. just because of the whole doing the same shit all the time
like kicking it on the same porch and like drinking and whatever
whatever. but then i also realize that. how do i say this. just going back to being in ally-ship and camaraderie \ with people who. when you drop those folks
you stop being there for them also
and i think recently i've been learning how to be that ally
but from a distance to where it's safe enough for myself also
you know what i mean? where i'm not dragged down with you
but also like fuck with you
solidarity
love you
here for you
here for your work if you're working on yourself
but if you're not
also
i'm. you know what i mean? i think that middle ground has been hard for me to find
'cause even just talking about how we need camaraderie
we need that foundation
but if you x somebody else out
that's kinda fucked up. it's important to build other folks up
i think for me
like
i'm my biggest issue. like
i give
i give
i give
i don't know when to cut that cord. i think for me
like mentally
that's like what i battle with within. i think it's just finding that
like what you were talking about
finding when to cut the cord and when enough is enough basically without feeling like you're just being selfish for doing that